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Problem: It seems like there are many times when I feel misunderstood. I am not sure because I don’t pursue the matter. I sit quietly by and say nothing. I am really angry that people seem not to understand what I am trying to say. I’m pretty quiet, and maybe that is why no one seems to hear…

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Problem: I have a challenge that is pretty serious to me. My wife told me that our daughter has said to her that she wishes she was dead. My wife made me promise not to bring it up to our daughter, but I think that is not a good way to handle it. You read about and see on television about ki…

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Problem: This is the beginning of a new year and new beginnings. So many times we put a lot of effort into writing down our resolutions and believe me, that does have some merit. However I think the first step in developing the goals for the year requires a fearless inventory of ourselves an…

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This is a seasonal post. Thanksgiving is just around the corner and we have family that we may or may not get along with. We love them, but they may make us a little crazy when we spend too much time with them. This is just a family thing for most of us. However there are families that have …

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Problem: This may not seem like a problem to anyone, but I’m very good at hiding my very angry self. I have a job that requires me to be nice to people up front. It is a public job so I see a lot of people on a daily basis. I find that at the end of the day I am fuming. I can’t believe the w…

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Problem: We are in a town where we have a lot of events, and my family in particular seems to take advantage of our home as their personal bed and breakfast. My husband has begun to complain of my family being here so often. His family really does not have the option of staying because my fa…

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Problem: How do you get over your own negativity? This is a question I have had for a long time. The truth is that I do not notice my negativity as much as other people notice it.

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Problem: It seems like a lot of the problems that I see come across in your articles are written by women. Do women focus on the problems that men like me seem oblivious to? What kind of problems are going on in a relationship and specifically mine that I am missing?

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Problem: I recently had a bad experience with a friend. This relationship started off as a work relationship but did turn into a friendship. I was being paid for my organizational/personal assistant position. It really worked out well, as this individual needed the help and I’m good at what …

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Problem: I am married and I am trying not to be picky, but my husband stretches the truth. It is small things that really do not matter but it is pretty consistent. I have gotten to the point that I check on what he says because he does this ridiculous behavior most of the time with me. He s…

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Problem: I have seen a counselor in the past and did feel better when I was seeing her, but my spouse did a lot of complaining about the expense. I work and bring money into the house and it is not like we are impoverished, so I did not see what the problem was.

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Problem: It could be that other people would not see this as a problem, but I feel like I do not have a voice or an opinion with my husband, because he insists on being right. If I voice an opinion he demeans what I have to say and then acts as if I have a problem and I am taking him too ser…

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Problem: I am a packrat and I know it but I have a hard time getting rid of things. My husband complains that we have no more room in our house and he is probably right.

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Problem: I am so tired of the news and all the bad things going on. I wonder how to feel better about myself and the state of the world. When I think of all the things that can go wrong and all the things that have gone wrong, I am just sort of mind boggled. I really do work at trying to rem…

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Problem: My husband says that all I ever do is complain. I am getting so tired of hearing him say this, but am beginning to wonder if it could be true. I am sort of a perfectionist who likes to have things and life in order. It isn’t a problem to me, but not everyone has the same mentality.

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Problem: I have a daughter who is coming to visit, and the last time she came she was super critical of me and the way things were. She and her dad have a great relationship, and they do not have challenges that I can see. She is an only daughter, so her father has a favorite daughter. I not…

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Problem: I don’t even know what has caused this problem but my wife and I are not able to get along right now. We have been together for over 20 years, and I did not know she was so unhappy with our relationship. She really has not been a wife who complained all the time. Every now and then …

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Problem: I feel that I just can’t get ahead. I have three children, a husband and a job. I have always been a person who got things done, but I find I am getting so behind on everything. It does not help I am a perfectionist and I like things to be in order. Most of the time I am just exhaus…

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Problem: I know being a good parent is one of my goals and one that I think has been very difficult. My background is one that has been traumatic, and I think I have transferred some of my trauma to my children. My family was cold and seldom, if ever showed emotion. You were more likely to g…

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Problem: I have anxiety and I have a hard time figuring out what it is all about. My life is stressful and I am pretty busy most of the time. I do not have much downtime, so I don’t do any kind of stress management. I have recently had trouble sleeping and that affects me during the day. I d…

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Problem/challenge: My husband is a pretty optimistic guy and generally happy. I have such a hard time understanding his mindset. We as a nation are going through some pretty divisive times. I read Facebook and see so many people taking sides and belittling others based on politics. I wonder …

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Problem: I am a married woman with four children, and I have recently noticed that my children do not take much responsibility for their lives. I have done everything for my children and have been a stay-at home-mom because I could. My husband does not participate much in raising our childre…

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Problem: I have a difficult time forgiving my husband. He has done plenty to offend me and most of the time it seems intentional. He has a very rough demeanor and he says whatever comes to his mind. We have been married for a very long time and our kids are grown and gone. Our children know …

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Problem: Christmas has come and gone and this year was one of the most stressful. I am not sure what part I have had in the whole thing. My aging parents needed more help this year and I have siblings that just did not care to participate in taking care of them. I have heard stories time and…

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Problem: I have grown so tired of all the contention in this world. It seems like it is worse than usual. Maybe I didn’t pay attention to all the political stuff that went on in the past, but it seems like it is on overload. Most of the news networks seem very biased, and I am not sure who i…

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Problem: I have a real problem with my attitude or way of looking at life. It seems like other people see the positive in life and I just do not seem able to see that. I came from a family who focused on anything that could go wrong. My siblings and I were taught not to trust people. I am no…

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Problem: My daughter and I have had issues since she was a teenager, maybe even before that. She was always a strong-willed child and was not really prone to listen. She liked being the center of attention and that was always hard for me to understand. She seemed so different than me. I came…

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Problem: I don’t think it is unusual but I seem to be challenged over and over again to stand up for things that I see as unjust out there in the real world.

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Problem: I think that life is tough and I just feel like giving up. My spouse has a way of communicating that leaves me cold. He really does not want to discuss much of anything unless it pertains to his work. In the years we have been married I have listened and listened to his endless stor…

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Problem: I never thought I would be in a situation like this. I have elderly parents who require a lot of care. I have brothers who are out of town who do nothing to give me a break or just try to be there for our parents. I have a hard time understanding what provokes this kind of behavior;…

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Problem: I have been married for many years and to this date I have never won an argument with my husband. If I make a good point during our discussion, he does not even acknowledge me and will often walk away.

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Problem: I have been the main caretaker of my elderly parents for many years. They have managed to stay in their home and they are both in their 90s. They both have dementia and are often difficult. I have two brothers who could help with them, and it has been discussed so many times I am ti…

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Problem: I have one daughter and she is very strong willed. I do not mind that particular aspect, but she has recently become unmanageable. She absolutely will not listen. No matter what she is told she ignores it, she throws a fit and has begun to push me.

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Problem: I am constantly second guessing myself. I am not sure when it started and I would sure like to get over this annoying habit. It makes my husband crazy and he says I am indecisive. He gets so annoyed with me that he has often said we are not going anywhere since I can’t make up my mi…

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Problem: Once again I am faced with New Year’s Resolutions, even though I very rarely complete them. I am not sure why I keep writing them out but here I am and feeling bad that I did not complete last year’s list.

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Problem: This is one of the saddest times of the year for me. I see people around me having such a good time and expressing how much they love spending time with family. I did not grow up with a family that was much fun to spend time with. Things have not changed that much, and they still ar…

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Problem: My problem is that my husband and I do not see things the same way. He seems pretty optimistic but his communication is anything but that. He finds fault with so many things it wears me out listening to him.

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Problem: My husband says I never get anything done. Believe me I have good intentions to get started in the morning and get all of the housework done. I have a number of hobbies that take a lot of time, and I enjoy them. The problem to me is that I do not like housework. There is always some…

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Problem: I have a problem with my children. It seems to me that if their dad and I have a disagreement they tend to take his side. For what it is worth, my children are grown. They say I am too hard on him and I wonder where it is written that your children have permission to judge your beha…

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Problem: I think my problem is simple, but difficult to resolve. I have a mother who does not seem to like me. I have found that she talks about me behind my back. I always thought she was hard on me but this pretty much puts me in a situation to not be around her.

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Problem: I have been having problems with my parents who are very elderly: 93 and 91. It has been a rough go here of late. They both have dementia and live at home. I feel that I have done the best to take care of them, but I am getting tired and worn out having done this by myself for so long.

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Problem: I am single and currently involved with a man I met online. He described himself pretty thoroughly, and I thought he was the man of my dreams when we met in person. He was not exactly what he said he was but I liked him anyway. He admits to embellishing a bit, and it is never anythi…

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Problem: I have had a pretty rough life and at this point in my life I have almost given up on letting people in. It seems like I get involved in a relationship and before you know it I am taken advantage of or somehow hurt. Could it be that it is my fault or is it that people are just not v…

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Problem: I have recently started taking care of my aging parents. They both have memory problems. I have siblings out of the city, and they have pretty much said they cannot help. I know it is their choice, but I do not have the ability to do it all either.

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To submit problems contact Juanita Sanchez, psychotherapist, by email at jsanchez1448@sbcglobal.net.